Too many of us are born into environments where self-denial is rewarded and presence is inconsistent. Did you know that it quietly teaches us to prioritize something outside of us and irrelevant to us over our actual needs and over ourselves, struggling to realise what is even happening.
What happens is not obvious from the outside, but it lead to the gradual and deep disconnection from your instincts, boundarys, and self-trust. Because all this didn't happen yesterday, it is mistaken for personality rather than adaptation.
Survival pressures one to function without questioning. I care deeply about these topics, If you feel something in you life feels wrong, even if you cannot yet name it... I might be able to help you